Our daughter, O, is 10 years old, but she is developmentally delayed. Which means she functions at about a 4 to 5 year old level socially, and probably lower than that academically. She is mildly mentally retarded and has severe ADHD. She is a handfull, but an extremely loving child and I wouldn't change things even if I could.
I don't want to get into everything with her, you will hear more stories about her as I blog on, I am sure, but there is something that is eating me alive. She is 10 1/2...which means puberty is not far away. How do you explain to essentially a 4 year old that she is going to get her period? How do you explain that she will need to get a pelvic exam? What kind of doctor do you take her to? Do you put her on the depo shot so that she won't have a period? She is not capable of deciding her sexual path in life. What is the easiest course? I want to protect her as well as I can - I am her mother. What if she is taken advantage of - and is raped, but isn't protected? She couldn't raise a baby - and I don't know that I could put her through an abortion or do the abortion anyway! Do I just put her on a birth control regimen to be safe? I realize this is still maybe a couple of years away, but I keep telling myself I would cross that bridge when it came, but I think the bridge is getting closer. I can SEE it and that scares the hell out of me. I can't seem to find any support groups for this thing, although I know there are other parents who have had to go through it. So, hopefully someone will read this blog and help me out. This is my cry for help!!
Thursday, October 8, 2009
Wednesday, October 7, 2009
Yadda yadda yadda
Well, today is Wednesday. Our schedules get all funked up this week because the boys get out of school early today and tomorrow and have no school on Friday or Monday. So, it will be an experience getting them back on track!
I go back to the eye doctor tomorrow to see if I can get some new glasses or possibly get my contacts back. I am praying to get my contacts back!
C came home with a note from a girl the other day. It had her phone number on it! He is in KINDERGARTEN!! My son got his first digits at 5 years old! How does that even happen? I guess he is going to be a ladies' man!! Good for him...not good for mom!!
We have a wedding to go to on Saturday - so mom and dad are keeping the kids. I am so lucky and thankful to have parents around willing to help us out with the kids. I don't know what we would do without them!!
I go back to the eye doctor tomorrow to see if I can get some new glasses or possibly get my contacts back. I am praying to get my contacts back!
C came home with a note from a girl the other day. It had her phone number on it! He is in KINDERGARTEN!! My son got his first digits at 5 years old! How does that even happen? I guess he is going to be a ladies' man!! Good for him...not good for mom!!
We have a wedding to go to on Saturday - so mom and dad are keeping the kids. I am so lucky and thankful to have parents around willing to help us out with the kids. I don't know what we would do without them!!
Friday, October 2, 2009
Life in general
Not too much has been going on the last couple of days. Just working and raising kids!! I did reach out to a couple of people from college. Hopefully I will get some kind of response. I have been wondering what became of them - so hopefully I will hear something! I am kind of over the whole being excluded thing...it is just a fact of life - you know there are members of your family whom you love and love you back, and there are others who don't. But oh well, I am happy, I have wonderful kids, I have parents that are unbelievable and a husband who loves me unconditionally. What more could I ask for? Hopefully we have a good weekend in front of us....
Sunday, September 27, 2009
Our weekend...
Well, our weekend started with the high school homecoming game. Great job Knights!! The boys pulled it out literally in the last seconds! It was a great game - great weather - huge crowd. What great memories! O even pulled out my old cheerleading coat - suppose it could be considered "vintage"!!
Saturday we went to the last Highland Game of the year - at least the last one we are going to. Chad had a lot of fun - although he didn't place as high as he would have like. It sure has been an experience going to these games. I have learned a lot and met a ton of great people. I am so thankful that so many friends and family came to see him compete - it means a lot to both of us.
Saturday night was Hawkeye football - and we BEAT PSU!! Congrats to the Hawks! Such a great game - we are definitely underrated - but sometimes it is better that way. I am proud to be a Hawk and very impressed with the work ethic of the kids! Such a great game!!
Today was cleaning day around our house. It is fall clean up week in town, which means you can put all of your big items out at the curb, and the city will pick them up. We cleaned the upstairs out - threw away a TON of toys and cleaned out the garage.
It was also NFL Sunday - and the MN Vikings were playing the SF 49ers. This is a big game for our family as we are Vikings fans. Usually this would be a great day - nice afternoon football game. But, it wasn't on TV here at home - and a big majority of my family was in MN to watch the game. See, apparently a group of my siblings and cousins got together and decided they would make a trip up to the game. We weren't asked to go - which, we probably wouldn't have gone anyway, but we weren't even told about the trip. We had to hear about it by chance. And maybe I am oversensitive, but I think that is pretty crappy!!
I think sometimes people don't understand little things that they do may effect people in a big way. I am of the feeling that you should treat your family with love and respect. ALL of your family. You don't get to choose your family, but when everyone else may not stand behind you, you will always have your family. When you are a family member that is treated as a lesser person, it makes a difference. It can start when you are young - and carry on into your adult life. I think it is extremely hurtful when a family function is planned as an outing for MOST of the family - and some of the family is excluded - whether purposely or accidentally. I have come to terms with the fact that I am not as close with some of my family members, but I feel like I am high school again....and I am 34 years old. Should anyone ever feel like that with your family? I don't think so.
Saturday we went to the last Highland Game of the year - at least the last one we are going to. Chad had a lot of fun - although he didn't place as high as he would have like. It sure has been an experience going to these games. I have learned a lot and met a ton of great people. I am so thankful that so many friends and family came to see him compete - it means a lot to both of us.
Saturday night was Hawkeye football - and we BEAT PSU!! Congrats to the Hawks! Such a great game - we are definitely underrated - but sometimes it is better that way. I am proud to be a Hawk and very impressed with the work ethic of the kids! Such a great game!!
Today was cleaning day around our house. It is fall clean up week in town, which means you can put all of your big items out at the curb, and the city will pick them up. We cleaned the upstairs out - threw away a TON of toys and cleaned out the garage.
It was also NFL Sunday - and the MN Vikings were playing the SF 49ers. This is a big game for our family as we are Vikings fans. Usually this would be a great day - nice afternoon football game. But, it wasn't on TV here at home - and a big majority of my family was in MN to watch the game. See, apparently a group of my siblings and cousins got together and decided they would make a trip up to the game. We weren't asked to go - which, we probably wouldn't have gone anyway, but we weren't even told about the trip. We had to hear about it by chance. And maybe I am oversensitive, but I think that is pretty crappy!!
I think sometimes people don't understand little things that they do may effect people in a big way. I am of the feeling that you should treat your family with love and respect. ALL of your family. You don't get to choose your family, but when everyone else may not stand behind you, you will always have your family. When you are a family member that is treated as a lesser person, it makes a difference. It can start when you are young - and carry on into your adult life. I think it is extremely hurtful when a family function is planned as an outing for MOST of the family - and some of the family is excluded - whether purposely or accidentally. I have come to terms with the fact that I am not as close with some of my family members, but I feel like I am high school again....and I am 34 years old. Should anyone ever feel like that with your family? I don't think so.
Thursday, September 24, 2009
Being a homemaker...
Well, last night was my first attempt at canning, actually pressure cooker canning. I think it went OK - at least the jars are sealed and LOOK like green beans still. I will be working with beans all night tonight - good thing there is lots of good TV on tonight!! We won't have to buy green beans for a year - if not more!! Oh well, it is a good thing to learn!!
Chad has a highland game this weekend. It is supposed to rain and be chilly! That is a great time to sit outside and watch men in skirts throw telephone poles! I tell you what, the things we do for our men!! Hopefully he will do well, which will make it all worth it! I think this is the last game of the season - sure has been an experience this summer. I am glad he got involved in it!
Other than that - looking forward to Homecoming tomorrow - will be a pep rally and everything. Took the night off work so that I could go with the kids. They are all very excited about it! Hopefully the rain will hold off and not make it miserable!! I will keep my prayers going that direction!
Ok - I don't think there is anything else right now...peace out!
Chad has a highland game this weekend. It is supposed to rain and be chilly! That is a great time to sit outside and watch men in skirts throw telephone poles! I tell you what, the things we do for our men!! Hopefully he will do well, which will make it all worth it! I think this is the last game of the season - sure has been an experience this summer. I am glad he got involved in it!
Other than that - looking forward to Homecoming tomorrow - will be a pep rally and everything. Took the night off work so that I could go with the kids. They are all very excited about it! Hopefully the rain will hold off and not make it miserable!! I will keep my prayers going that direction!
Ok - I don't think there is anything else right now...peace out!
Tuesday, September 22, 2009
Beans coming out my ears....
Today we had a friend who came across some free fresh green beans. We said we would like to have some of them to can or freeze or whatever. Well, SOME turned into 3 cases of them. Chad and I spent 2 hours watching TV and snapping beans tonight. We got through 1 case. I don't have any idea how we are going to can all of the beans. The kids all helped - but only for a little while. C helped for a while and then said he was bored! So was I, but there were still beans to snap! So, tomorrow afternoon, I will be canning and picking my first beans. It sure has been an exciting summer/fall - have so many mason jars filled with veggies, I can't believe it! Sure has been exciting!
Monday, September 21, 2009
Said it was coming out today...
Tonight before bed, O went to the bathroom. She then walked into the living room and said "My poop's not coming out." I told her it would be ok, it would come out tomorrow. She then said, with complete seriousness, "It said it was coming out today, but its not coming out." Too funny...out of the mouth's of babes!!
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